I bet you thought you were in the most romantic love story of your life when you first met him.
He leaned against you and it clicked or he kissed you and your world was turned upside down. You have come under his control. You were his.
But this love story did not last long and definitely had no happy ending.
It took him a long time to lose the mask he put on for his one-man show to impress you, or maybe you should say better for his hunt where he caught you in his cruel trap.
He was so addictive. You even knew he was not good for you, but you could not stop. You needed a shot of him and you kept coming back.
He was so engaging and convincing. His lies were so good that they bordered on fantasy.
His story of his “crazy” ex-girlfriend was so real that you believed every part of it until you later found out she was just a victim, just like you.
He slowly consumed you. He slowly adjusted the scene as it suited him.
He needed things where he wanted them before he attacked.
He feigned interest in you, and despite his egocentricity, he pretended to have made you the center of his world.
He wanted you to feel like you meant the world to him, so you started trusting him.
Once you’ve trusted him, the rest was a breeze. He had you in his grip. You were powerless.
He has isolated you from your friends and family because he has convinced you that he is the only thing you need and want in your life.
When he finally managed to feel alone in the world, he attacked.
The mask was gone and suddenly your nightmare came true. A small part of your hell became your reality and you could not escape it.
You just could not wake up. It was real – it happened.
These things became your daily life. You could not escape that. He assured you that you are the crazy one.
He has twisted your memory and identity and erased your self-esteem.
You were an empty girl whom he had fed with his twisted version of what was right. And you believed him.
But everything has an expiration date, just like this nightmare.
So many lies ran together in one place in a short time and they left their mark – they made a big BANG!
You were broken and left alone, but finally free.
You are now the girl who still knows how to love, but you love others …
1. You have no idea what real love looks like
Maybe at the beginning you caught a glimpse of what it should have been like.
He did the right thing in the beginning, but it was all a lie.
It was not because he loved you, but because he wanted to lure you, lock you up and destroy you.
You have never felt real love with him.
Now that you have met the right man, you do not know how to behave in his environment.
You doubt him and that unknown love that you receive.
You think everything is a big farce, a lie that will cost you later.
His love confuses you and you need time to relax and open up to accept something you have earned from the beginning.
2. You have problems to trust
You had nothing to say in your previous relationship.
You were just an outline and he held the brush to fill you with the colors he chose.
You hated those colors, but you could not erase them until you took control until you took the paintbrush and repainted yourself.
You were afraid that you would be forced to relive the whole thing.
There was no trust. Your last relationship was based on lies.
It will take time for you to trust someone else, but your new husband knows that.
That’s why he gives you all the space you need. That’s why he does not want to be hurt by the things you do out of fear.
He knows that you need time to heal, and he will be there for you. He will wait for you because he loves you.
3. You want to destroy everything good
You subconsciously destroy your chance for happiness.
You’re trying to sabotage the only real relationship you’ve ever had.
You try to drive the only man who has ever really loved you.
The fact that it seems perfect scares you, because the narcissistic bastard was also perfect, even too perfect, and you landed at the low point of your life.
You are now trying to ruin your relationship because you can not accept that something good is happening to you.
You have been poisoned for too long and you can not accept that a pure and healthy life is waiting for you.
4. You apologize for everything
You were used to bearing all the weight of your relationship.
You were used to always being blamed. You actually thought everything was your fault.
You were at a dead end where you could not react properly, so each time you opted for an apology.
That was the only thing you knew he would accept.
The man who really loves you does not let you apologize all the time.
The man who tries to show you true love is ready to confess when he is wrong. He is ready to say, “I’m sorry.”
5. You are distanced
It will take time to let go and trust someone.
You will keep your distance because you are still hurt and you are not sure if this guy is the right one.
You were beaten and it still hurts.
You do not want to suffer anymore. Your heart tells you that it’s okay and that you should let it near you, but your head is constantly running away.
Do not worry. This time will not last forever.
He will not take it. He will fight with everything he has to prove himself and win your trust.
He will gently bind you with his love and you will not be able to escape.
He will not let you.
6. You wait for the bang
There will be no one. You are unsure because things are going smoothly.
He is the most wonderful man you have ever met and he showeres you with all the love and attention you deserve.
It never ends. You are just waiting for the lies.
You are waiting for a tsunami of evil and manipulative lies, but there is no tsunami ahead of you.
All you see is a clear sky and calm sea.
You stay alert because you are careful and afraid.
You have built a wall around you that he will tear down with his love to nurture and care for you.
7. You have to feel safe
You need a promise that everything will be fine.
You need him to believe it, and it’s hard because you have trouble believing it, and you know it’s not easy for him either.
You need a safe place where you can be loved and where you can finally fall back.
You need him because you have so much love to give.
You need him to dispel the fear and to open a new chapter of your and your life together with your help.
He knows you love differently, that’s why he loves you even more.
You may have been broken when he met you, but you will not be long.